Only Half the Story

It’s one of the most-quoted divorce statistics of the modern age: Half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce.-

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/what-is-divorce-rate-america/

As Tom and Lisa Bilyeu astutely point out in this Youtube breakdown of their wonderful marriage, divorce is only one measure of our success as a society when it comes to lasting marriages. They also make some of the secrets of staying together HAPPILY accessible to the masses.

I couldn’t stop listening to their Youtube presentation. They kept it positive and simple.

Relationship self-help books are a dime a dozen, and I’ve read a few really great ones. THIS was one of the best. That book netted me my now husband of almost 20 years, and a very happy marriage, because I’ve learned that it’s essential for me to generally be what Lisa and Tom term the “follower” in the relationship. That tends to be what works well, for us.

There are a few times when I’ve stepped out of that role, when I saw that it was vital to the well-being of my family to take the lead.

One example of that is when I saw that my son’s traditional school was holding him back, depressing him and sucking away his love of learning. He was getting bullied, and over taxed with meaningless homework. I talked to his martial arts teacher about it, and she mentioned the names of some online schools that the other parents at her school had raved about.